You don’t need a crystal ball to tell when a woman isn’t serious about you. You just need eyes, ears, and a functioning gut instinct. But in the age of filters, false modesty, and “my truth,” some men are still out here trying to turn street performers into stay-at-home wives.
Don’t.
If you’re looking to build something real, not just rack up therapy bills, pay attention. Because if she’s for the streets, you’ll end up lost, broke, or both.
Let’s break down the signs.
1. Her Instagram Looks Like a Subscription Service
If her IG is 90% bikini pics, mirror selfies, and “traveling alone” to Dubai, she’s not posting for you. She’s marketing to the streets.
Bonus points if every photo is a thirst trap with captions like “mood,” “vibes,” or Bible quotes that have nothing to do with the picture. Proverbs wasn’t about booty pics, sweetheart.
2. She Says “I Have a Lot of Guy Friends” With Pride
Look, having male friends isn’t a crime. But if all her “bros” have tried to sleep with her (and she knows it), then she’s not keeping them around for ping-pong tournaments.
You’re not dating a social butterfly. You’re dating a woman who keeps the roster warm.
3. Her Past “Situationships” All Sound the Same
“He was crazy.”
“He was toxic.”
“We weren’t exclusive, but…”
If every guy from her past was the problem, spoiler alert: she’s the common denominator. The streets love chaos. So does she.
4. She Mentions Her Body Count Like It’s a Resume
If she proudly talks about “owning her sexuality,” and throws double or triple digits around like she’s reading out Bingo numbers, she’s not ashamed. But maybe you should be.
Men aren’t insecure for caring. You’re just not trying to commit to someone who treats intimacy like a handshake.
5. She Can’t Cook, Clean, or Offer Anything But Looks
Yes, it’s 2025. No, women aren’t housemaids. But if she brings nothing to the table but her looks, she better hope her OnlyFans career takes off. Because a real man doesn’t need a high-maintenance selfie machine with no real-world skills.
You want a partner. Not a liability.
6. Every Weekend Is “Girl’s Night Out”
And they’re always “just having fun.”
Translation: tequila, attention, and flirting with every dude in the VIP section who bought them a bottle of Grey Goose. Streets stay open on weekends. And she’s clocked in.
If she’s out more than she’s in, believe it’s not for Bible study.
7. Her Phone is Always on Silent, Face Down
If her phone never rings around you, and she’s always texting with the screen flipped, that’s not privacy. That’s secrecy.
This is the classic street behavior combo. Always online, but never reachable. She’s not being mysterious. She’s just juggling more than one man and trying not to get caught.
8. She Can’t Hold a Conversation That Doesn’t Involve Herself
If every conversation loops back to her, her problems, her drama, her nails, her ex, her brunch plans… she’s not looking to build with you. She’s looking for a free therapist with benefits.
The streets don’t raise wives. They raise narcissists.
9. She’s “Over Her Ex,” But Still Talks About Him… A Lot
If her ex is somehow still in every story, every comparison, every triggered emotional spiral, guess what? He still lives rent-free in her head.
You’re not dating her. You’re just auditioning for the role he vacated. And she might not even be done with him yet.
10. She Treats Loyalty Like a Chore, Not a Choice
She wants to “keep things open,” or “see where it goes,” or “not put labels on things.”
Translation: she wants to enjoy the perks of being with a good man while staying available for better offers.
Loyalty isn’t confusing. If she’s unsure, you already have your answer.
You don’t need to fix her. You need to recognize what she is.
She’s not wifey. She’s a tourist in relationships, just passing through until she gets bored.
Save your time. Save your sanity. And stop trying to build a future with someone who treats the present like a nightclub.
Let the streets keep her.
Know a guy who’s trying to wife up a woman who belongs to the boulevard? Send him this. Or better yet, tattoo it to his forehead. And if you’re still dodging red flags in your own dating life, stick around, The Wise Gentlemen will keep your compass pointed true.
